Love and Marriage

Why do we all have this instinct to try and find love? Is it actually an instinct, or something programmed into us over many generations? Fairytales of form a young girls' impression of love, but boys have less to go on. Maybe that's why there's such a big difference in our views on marriage. Men seem okay with a small, intimate wedding, and yet girls want the biggest event of the year. Men can also feel comfortable to step aside and let their soon-to-be lady have the spotlight and whatever else she wants. I am not sure I understand marriage. I am also not sure I want to. I do know that when I do get married it will be as much about me as it will the groom.